perception & icebergs.

(for a better reading experience, pop this blog up on your desk/laptop & grab a snack & come on back.. cause i’m bout to spit some truth.)

in my next 13 years, i hope that the man i will someday choose to love will see and accept me not for my curse, but as a blessing. i don’t want to be seen as my illness & i’ve also learned that i do not need verbal validation how sick i am or have been, yet pretend to be a normal functioning human all at the same time. i want to be seen as a wife, with a compassion for serving others, with kids at my dinner table, in a house that i own, with a dog sitting next to my front porch swing. i want to cross a thousand finish lines without raising money to find a cure for a disease that will be in full Remission, with hopes of being so much closer to a better quality of life with this illness. my hope is that in my lifetime, i will see better therapies, better care & more compassion to those living with illness – both visible and not so visible. i want to be healthy enough to take care of my family, be able to conceive children if God has this in His plan for me and i want my life to be more meaningful, grateful and full of.. well, life.

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something very beautiful happens to people when their world has fallen apart: a humility, a nobility, a higher intelligence emerges at just the point when our knees hit the floor. – marianne williamson

for information regarding extraintestinal manifestions, visit:
Very Well -What Are the Extra-Intestinal Complications of Crohn’s Disease?

http://online.ccfa.org/site/DocServer/Kim.pdf?docID=25687 

standstill.

20140213-191509.jpgits been pretty quiet at #purpleproject lately.. i guess i feel as though silence is better than being dishonest. since we’re family, ill let you in on whats been going on (or lack there of) over here..

winter has been hard. what seems like “rest” and quiet for the last month or two.. have actually been quite the opposite.

my pain management since christmas has been at an all-time low. i feel like when my pain is out of control, i have no sense of control of my immune system. little to no energy is produced from my body and getting out of a seated position made me cry in my last flare.

in the first week of january, i experienced the worst fibro(arthritis?) flare up in my hands/body that i have ever had. its never been this bad. i wasnt able to hold a pencil in my right hand. i cried constantly. every nerve ending in my body hurt; i couldnt move any of the joints without coming to tears. i found myself on the floor many times. this lasted for about 3 weeks.

it was during the end of this flare i had an accident. after falling down a set of stairs & waiting a week too long to be checked out, i found i had separated my right shoulder when i hit the bottom. Boom.

i cannot explain to you the sense of helplessness i feel when i start to flare. prescriptions are not helping, other prescriptions are not covered by insurance or cost $256/bottle with insurance. im allergic to most pain meds. its not been a glamorous winter so far. there have been many sleepless nights as of late. some filled with physical pain, some filled with fevers, anxiety & nightmares. but most nights are filled with tears.

my entire right side was affected when i fell, but its been an interesting jan/feb using one hand during a flare. ill let you paint the picture.. ive had a pain in my ass for the past month that seems to only get worse with time (fistula/fissure).  i am in the middle of a not so great flare that has brought me to my knees physically & emotionally. i see my new GI the first week in march. funny how winter has crept up on us so fast, but 2 weeks seems so far away. im miserable. my quality of life is less than stellar living in pain. i dont like what im about to say: its time for injections.

after giving it one last ditch effort last year, i had hopes Humira would give my body a little more mercy than it has before. it seems though, to get worse every time, and will get worse with each time it is stopped. i made the decision with the supervision of a GI, that i would be done with Humira. no more allergic reactions, no more weird infections, no more lung issues. i was free. i cannot express the feeling of leaving a doctors office and hearing the words “youre on a drug hiatus, treat this as a vacation”. it was a terrifying & wonderful experience

i take the good days & i hug them tight. i give all of my energy and soul in to these days, because i know there will be bad ones. its hard to conserve my energy on the good days, because i want to live an honest, open life to the world and give everything i have on those days and more. on my good days, im superwoman living in jeans and a smile. i earn those days & refuse to let them go.

im taking gabapentin. im applying the voltaren 4x day. im praying often. and when im able, i. run. like. hell.

#despite